I try; we all try at some point to do right, to do well, and to be selfless. I think it is in our human nature to make others feel happy, content, wanted, loved, & important but sometimes I wonder if it is in truth futile & selfish in personality. Are we honestly obligated to these external actions based upon truthful placement of all other sentient beings before our own remuneration? In other words, do we commit to these actions due to egotistical ideals or are they born out of true regard for all but the delusional ‘self’?
Life is all about reciprocity born out of unspoken, unwritten, and conscious actions or at least it should be. If I act for the benefit of another then those actions should be based upon true regard and intent for all but the benefit of the ‘self’ and/or ‘ego’. One does not have to be of any religious or ideological conviction to comprehend the concept that we all rely upon and feel the need to lean on each other for some guidance and support. Otherwise we would not be immersed in an ever growing realm of our own ‘kind’.
However one cannot help but want some type of love and admiration in return, to have their good intentions be felt by others & those individuals reciprocate the same. If this is the case then are we not caught in a cyclic act of deeds based upon the ego’s desire to have expectations met and when not we face denunciation? Can we not see that we refrain from giving ourselves that love based upon a fear of being conceited or self absorbed by others? Ultimately that desire causes eventual suffering, as it always does, due to the mind & body struggling to satisfy its own insecurities and to quell those uncertainties with being wanted. There is a difference, nonetheless, in being completely self absorbed vs realizing you are a kind and good spirit that should be appreciated and loved by yourself 1st only to be understood and felt the same by all others.
So how does one act without ego stepping in and wanting a piece of that transitory blissful emotion? I wish I knew the definitive answer to that holistically but I can speculate that it is done via the awareness and understanding that there is no ‘self’ or ‘atman’. It is an illusion of the mind as ultimately we are all beings of love and if we accept that truthfully vs. the delusion of ego and attachment to the mind and body’s voice of “me” and “want” then perhaps we are already on the path to acceptance and eventual peace with everything.
Too many think from the mind and thus too little feel and articulate through the heart, the conscious internal wakefulness.
The mind has a tendency to toxify thoughts, actions, and feelings via the notion of opinion, insecurities, doubt, confusion, pain, and anger.
Any and all actions, be it physical or mental, need to be committed to with the principle of good & truth for all including oneself thus the mind needs to be ‘tamed’ for those actions to pass through or by the sleeping & calmed ‘self’ to reach the consciousness.
It is there that wholesome and loving thoughts can stem from, uninhibited by self doubt and fragmentation.
The past is nothing but memories and lessons…remember the good times, learn from & release the bad and live for the now.
Be mindful of the future but never at the expense of the present.